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Wednesday, May 20

6 Things We Do To Teach Our Kids the Importance of Work

I'd like to share with you something my friend posted on her Facebook wall.  She is a store manager for an upscale retailer.  
"I seriously can't believe the work ethic of people any more. I got called a nasty name by a new employee (right before she quit) because I, her boss, told her that she needed to show up to all her shifts. I'm over it! I need people that actually want a job and will show up every time, not cause drama and actually care about how they perform at their job. "

Does this sound familiar? Have you worked with, or for, people like this young woman?  In this day and age where we are praised for doing the bare minimum, how can we teach our children that the bare minimum isn't good enough?

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My husband and I were both taught a lot about having a strong work ethic.  He is from a family of nine, and embodies the saying "There is always, always, always something that needs to be done."  While my housekeeping skills are sometimes lacking, we both learned the value of working hard in school to excel, and we had opportunities to develop our work ethic through part time jobs throughout our youth and into adulthood.

Now that we are "grown up" and married with three kids,  my husband and I talk constantly about how to teach our children to have a strong work ethic and to be reliable and responsible people.   Our kids are still years away from part-time jobs.  We're not always sure we're doing all we can to instill that work ethic in them while they are young-- but we are trying!

I know we're not alone in this struggle.  How in this world of entitlement do we teach our children the importance of work? 
I thought I'd share what we're doing so far, and then I'd love to hear your suggestions as to what is working for you.  Please chime in below in the comments!

1.  We teach our children that being part of a family means sharing the work.

That means that cleaning, cooking, and doing the laundry aren't "Mom's jobs".  We divide up chores and take turns doing them so that everyone shares the responsibility to keep the house clean and running smoothly.  And, we don't pay them for doing what needs to be done.  (They do get an allowance, but it's our family's choice not to tie it to chores.)
When they complain, and they do often, we say this over and over.  "Being part of our family means sharing the work."  Someday I hope it sinks in :)

2.  We reward them for going above and beyond the basics.

When a child helps another do their work, we praise them and thank him or her.  When someone volunteers to help with something, we give that child a hug and/or thank him or her!  When they do a particularly difficult job like pulling the weeds in our yard (we live in Phoenix so our yard is almost all rocks), scrubbing baseboards, or organizing the thousands of Legos we own, we pay them a little extra.

3.  We keep track of all daily responsibilities with "chore charts" (for lack of a better name)

During the school  year, we list all school work along with things for extracurricular activities.  
For example, we have spaces to check off homework, spelling practice, math fact practice, reading time, piano practice, dance or sport practice, etc. After snack time and time to decompress from the school day, they get right to work.

We add our normal home responsibilites to the charts as well-- make your bed, clean up your room, and then whatever cleaning job(s) they are assigned that day.
The kids check it off as each job is done, and we occasionally reward them with a trip to the movies, ice cream, or something similar.
We don't take a break in the summer.  This year we have spots for making your bed, practicing piano, completing pages in a workbook, reading, and completing a daily chore.  All of these have to be done before screen time could occur.

4.  We constantly make connections between work and benefits received.

When a child brings home a report card, we don't pay them for their grades.  But we make sure to praise them for how hard they've worked.  We talk about connections between what they put in and what they got out of it.  "Emma you worked so hard on your math facts this quarter that your grade went up 8 whole points!  I knew you could do it!"   "Kyle, your spelling grade is an A!  All that practice has totally paid off!"

5.  We let the kids see us work

Yes, it's important that they are pitching in to help.  But it's equally important for them to see our example.  My husband is very busy at work, often working 50-60 hours a week.  Plus, he is the bishop of our congregation, which means he is often gone at night or on weekends serving the members of our church.  While he makes an extra effort to do fun things with them and spend quality time with them when he is home, they are often sad he is away so much.  We talk a lot about exactly what it is he is doing, how he works so hard to take care of our family, and how he cares so much about others that he gives his time (unpaid) to help them when they are in need.
They also see or hear me doing dishes, folding laundry, cleaning rooms, go grocery shopping, etc. to keep our house running.  I don't currently work outside the home, but I can teach them to be better caretakers of their homes than I was taught.

6.  We will prepare our children to be responsible adults by allowing them to experience great responsibility as they age.

As I said before, we're a few years away from this, but I fully intend on allowing my children to babysit, work at part-time jobs, and help earn their way through college as they get older.  I can't see how they will be prepared for adult life without those valuable experiences.
This year my daughter raised a pig for the county fair.  You can bet that was a lot of work and responsibility!  She learned valuable lessons in being responsible, persistent, and that hard work can be rewarded (she sold her pig for a good amount of money and won a "Rookie of the Year award"
Louie the Pig

We're not perfect.  I worry all the time that my children feel entitled to things.  I feel like I am constantly fighting against that.  They complain a lot, especially my two older kids, who are 10 and 8. Sometimes I feel like a "mean mom" when I make them drop what they are doing and complete the chore they left unfinished.  But I know that in the long run, my children will benefit from what we're doing now.  I hope they will never be like the woman above that was so rude and inconsiderate to her boss, my friend.

It's your turn now!  How are you teaching your children the importance of work?